Mourning - question mark - because I wonder if I should mourn. My grandmother. Attention, I do not intend with this article catch your tears and sympathy (I will not spit, but say I do not need).
My grandmother has the disease Alzeihmer for about a year. Say that the disease was detected a year ago when some symptoms have appeared before, we did not suspect anything. And then, several things are intertwined.
My grandfather decided not tell him. to conceal his illness. Living alone with this responsibility. Because according to him, my grandmother is sufficiently stressed likely not to bother him with it. But now that the disease progressed, she realizes she is completely diminished she knows just why. Old age, is it a good justification?
After broke the neck of femur (conventional injury in old ladies, but still posting a loss of mobility forever), the disease has seized the opportunity of his weakness (very thin, tired, recovering) to progress. When I saw her for Christmas, she was already at the hospital (for a short stay because she was too skinny), and seemed extremely reduced. She has acknowledged , but could not sustain his attention more than ten minutes. She did not want to walk. My grandfather seemed exhausted .
Today, I have news of my grandfather that I scribbled letters of response when he has time, that is almost never : she became completely dependent. She no longer works, all the time needed him, wakes up at night. A need someone to make the toilet, to wash, to help to dress, eat. Mixture day, people, years, I dare not even ask if she remembers us. I do not know when I see her (they live far away) and if, when I see her again, she remembered me. I feel that she will die soon, and I wonder if this is not for the better. That may be cruel to think that way, but I do not know if today she is happy. If my grandfather is happy.
I wonder if I have to say goodbye to my grandmother who is still alive but even here anymore.
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